Monday, March 14, 2011


Joe was out of town last week. It doesn't seem to change much about our daily routines until dinner/bedtime. Still, the kids miss him but don't seem TOO broken up about it. They are kids, what can I say? I am the one who is totally exhausted and drained by his absence, mentally, emotionally and phyiscally.

But, there is one way that I know that the kids are more deeply affected by his absence then they let on: Nightmares. Normally they are all great sleepers. We are rarely ever awake during the night, since Abby was about 6 weeks old. Once they are out, we don't hear from them again until the morning.

Except...when Joe is gone. Then, it' not unusual for all three of them to wake up at some point during the night with a nightmare for the first two or three nights that he is gone. Not all at the same time, each one takes a turn. When I say "wake up" I mean suddenly screaming hysterically and sobbing uncontrollably. It scares me to death and then I can't get back to sleep. It's one of the hardest parts about him being gone.

Now, to the point of this story....

Last week, one of the nights Andrew woke up screaming and sobbing about 2 AM. I dashed in to comfort him (and try and keep him from waking up the other two). Once he calmed down enough that I could understand what he was saying, I had to smile even though I was exhausted. This is how it went:

Andrew, sobbing: "Are we having Family Home Evening?" (Thinking he was missing out on something)

me: "No, honey we're not."

Andrew: "But WWHHYYYY????"

me: "It's the middle of the night and everyone is sleeping."

Andrew: "But why can't we have Family Home Evening??"

me: "Because it's Wednesday."

Andrew, suddenly calm: "Oh, okay."

Then he simply climbed back in bed and was asleep.


Melanie said...

He he he...that is hilarious! My kids would LOVE to get out of FHE and here Andrew is sad because he thinks he has missed it. How cute!

Will said...

Wow. That is neat that FHE is so important to him. No fun about the nightmares, though.

Will said...

Oh- I just noticed that comment said it was from Will. It's actually me.

Judy said...

I love this story! Real and hard and funny and touched my heartstrings - thanks Chari!!

Breanna said...

Oh man that is a nightmare! He is so cute. :) It's strange the way that kids emotions come out sometimes. And cute.